Say for instance, you find yourself daydreaming about sex on the beach. Sometimes idealized fantasies, however, are more pleasurable than the real-life activity. If something you fantasize about, such as performing oral sex on another man, really turns you on, you can decide to keep it in the realm of fantasy or you may decide it is something you really want to do. Often the fantasy of breaking social taboos is erotic. Using fantasy or imagination, you can break away from the 'norm' for a while. In your thoughts and dreams, you can be more aggressive or more passive, in the setting of our choice. Sexual fantasies allow you to explore sexual desires, feelings, and behaviors without actually choosing to do them. Whether or not a person has the ability or actual desire to do these is often secondary to the escape and joy that fantasy provides. Or they may dream about playing sports with a pro, having lunch with a senator, or even hooking up with a celebrity. People may daydream about being James Bond or a Charlie's Angel, a rock star, and/or a famous chef, for example. Fantasies are a great, safe way to explore exciting events and situations - that you may or may not actually want to do.
